My marriage and courtship class has me looking at the relationships in other books I’ve been reading as well. Recently I’ve finally caught up on all the Harry Potter movies in preparation for when part one of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows comes out and it had me thinking about Bellatrix’s marriage.
For those that don’t remember, in the books Bellatrix is married to Rodolphous but there are many who think the marriage isn’t one of affection. In the fanfiction community a good number of stories show Rodolphous being either abusive or indifferent towards his wife. Add the fact that she is attracted to Voldemort, and on paper it would appear to be a rather dysfunctional marriage.
I don’t blame anyone that would jump to that conclusion. I would think that too and I felt sorry for her at one point. Then my Hail Wedded Love class read The Princess of Cleves by Marie-Madeline de Lafayette. In the book the Princess is married to the Prince by her mother as a hope that the marriage will be a good match and will provide her daughter with good fortune. However the Princess finds herself attracted to another man in the court called Monsieur de Nemours who is known for his many affairs with women. Though they never carry out a sexual affair the thought that the Princess is emotionally cheating on him destroyed the Prince and he dies of a broken heart.
The storyline of the novel got me thinking about the role love plays in marriage. For the Princess, being in a relationship with a man that loved her was unbearable and yet the prospect of taking up with Monsieur de Nemours, despite her feels for him, was ghastly. In this case, mutual passion and unrequited passion were killing the Princess just as much.
As we discussed this I couldn’t help but think about Rodolphous and Bellatrix Lestrange. (Really I even wrote it in the margin of my notebook!) Considering how attached the Blacks are to the idea of “pureblood wizards” I wouldn’t be surprised if Bellatrix’s marriage was one set up by her mother for her gain power and if love was absent from their marriage then it shouldn’t matter cos they would both be free to do as they chose.
With that I open it up to you guys. What are you thoughts on love and marriage? (You don’t have to reference Bellatrix but you can if you want.)